Rhapsodical rain

rain2I lay myself on the soft green grass

Closed my eyes and let a sigh pass

With the sky as blanket and clouds my pillow

I revelled in the moment under a willow

Just then the first drops wet my bare skin

My parched pores drenched in the sin

Blissfully my soul swirled like a mystic

Prancing around like a rhapsodic psychic

A drug induced ecstasy overcame me

Wonder if this is what the monsoon is meant to be.

 

The I-kids

“a look of quietude has befallen the play grounds,

the serene stillness played merry-go-round,

those pitter patter which trotted the freshly laid lawns are seeked,

bewitched by the gadgets, couched in their rooms, they are meeked.”

With the latest gizmos in hand, the children are lost in the virtual world. This is the haunting reality that every modern parent is facing.  The millennial introduce their children to tablets, smartphones and other gadgets that threaten their cognitive and social development. With both the parents earning exorbitant income, they tend to indulge their children, to overcome their bereavement of time spent with them.

Many revel at their precious little ones’ ability to handle an iPhone or iPad. Some, proudly complain about their kids’ ability to change the configuration of their laptop or mobiles which their expert intellectual mind is unable to figure. Should we applaud or be alarmed?

As a friend of mine claimed that she manages two kids with no help, hence she is left with no choice but to turn to these gizmos to contain her ever hyper son. In such scenarios what should one do? I agree, parenting is no piece of cake or bed of roses, but when one chooses to be a parent, certain sacrifices are made to raise the kids. As my sister often quotes “it’s not kids but adults, that we are raising”. So, it’s not the sacrifices, but what we choose to sacrifice that counts.

Many firms have come out with educational apps claiming to develop and enhance the logical, analytical and comprehending skills of the child. Can’t the child develop all these skills by just playing outside with a group of other children, thereby developing social skills too?

The 80’s and 90’s saw a generation glued to the television set. Slowly the trend has changed and the obsession too. One may ask so what is wrong being technologically advanced? Well everything has its pros and cons. As parents, one must see the two sides of the coins. Technology is good if it catapults the society into the mode of progression and not degression. By society I mean the individuals, the children who are our future. It should ensure that mankind evolves as better humans and not the other way around. The advancement in technology should help the society and propagate love and harmony.

As a teacher, I’ve observed that many children have developed a stoop because of prolonged gazing over the tablets or smartphones. Bad posture equals laziness and lack TECH 2of concentration. I, also noted that the kids are unable to think out of box. They are fed with information which leads to redundant brain. They have become more materialistic and clueless about priorities in life. Children, who are exposed to such gadgets at an early age, have been known to exhibit behavioural problems. Sleep deprivation, technology addiction, eating disorder, violent behaviour to name some.

Below are some suggestions that could be incorporated with your parenting techniques. Remember they are not the solutions to all the issues as each child or parent is different.

  1. Be a parent. As, you chose to be one-The concept of parenting is losing its meaning in today’s world. Earlier it was the kids who obeyed orders, and now it’s the vice versa.
  2. Give the child importance only where and when it requires. First and foremost is to stop with the indulgence. Don’t keep the child in limelight all the time.
  3. Be consistent with your instructions.  Never waver when drawing rules in the house.
  4. Involve your kids in the house hold chores. Your children are part of the family not the centre of it. They should be assigned chores according to their age. Like picking toys, making their bed, laying the table or taking the trash out.
  5. Set rules like ‘u mess up, u clean up’. It’s very important to make them clean after their mess.
  6. Don’t make decisions for them, but help them to make it. Build in them the ability to decide for themselves even if it means selecting a toy or a dress.
  7. Minimal use of the gizmos. Give a time limit for it. Also, a day off in a week from all electronics for the entire family. Spent the time together playing indoor games.
  8. Encourage outdoor sports activities. It not only builds the physical stamina but also boosts social development. Children will learn to face failure or success in a competitive spirit.
  9. Read a story together before going to bed. If they are not interested in stories then just sit and talk to them. Nothing like a good conversation. Share your experiences of the day.
  10. Let them make mistakes and face the consequences. Never cover their faults and try to protect them. This will make them emotionally strong and teach them to be honest too.
  11. A computer or tablet should be used only if they require it. It should never become the means to drive boredom.
  12. Talk about both negative and positive effects of using the tablets and mobiles. That includes cyber bullying and threat to personal information.
  13. Don’t make internet, the only source to seek information. Turn their attention towards books like encyclopaedia. If you are not able to provide It, well, our old libraries still exist.

You can make a difference in your kid’s life. It’s never too late to start making changes. Let’s raise an ideal citizen, a kind human and an independent and bold individual. Rather than stopping them from using the modern-day gadgets teach them to use it responsibly.

“I fear the day that technology will surpass our human interaction. The world will have a generation of idiots.”___ Albert Einstein.

 

 

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Mammamia

It’s been 12 years since I became a mother but it still perplexes me at every turn. There have been times when I prided at task as simple as making the kids eat their meal and had shed tears cos the kid can’t spell a simple word. Lot of times I had questioned myself, what am I doing?

When I was a carefree teenager with absolutely no commitments, eating off my parent’s money, my dear mother had stated “being a mother is tough”. I had mocked at her and brushed it aside saying it’s no big deal. Little did I know those were the words of wisdom that warned me by an experienced matron.

Well here I am, not with one but two ‘adorable’ kids. Yeah, a title given by family and friends. Children are cute as long as they don’t belong to you. I became a mother with my first born and an umpire with my second. Why didn’t my mother warn about this role reversal? Many nights I had pondered over this. It’s like I am stuck between two warring nations, trying to sign a peace treaty. If I make the mistake of supporting one, then I am accused of loving him more. When I frantically summon for the third umpire, he slips out of the house in the pretext to buy something.

Sometimes I’ve a feeling that the elves are working against me. The neatly arranged kids’ wardrobe are in shambles the next day. The more I clean the house, the messier it becomes. It’s like a hurricane had just passed by. Those times I had wished to be Samantha from ‘Bewitched’ and all I had to do was to wriggle my nose and everything would fly back to their places.

My husband wanted 11 kids of his own to create a cricket team, until our second one started bowling. Living on the top floor It was nightmare. Every day I prayed for the soul, who may be standing underneath our window. Suddenly everything in my house had the ability to fly out. From kitchen ladles to toys to tv remote. It was the ‘terrible two’ phase. I tried wriggling my nose, but alas nothing happened. As Milton said, “Better to reign in hell”. Even hell seemed heavenly to me.

Now, in my glorious age with a more matured self and a sharpened wisdom, a realisation dawns on me. The knowledge that my wise mother had imparted, had all the answers to my questions. May be motherhood is not so easy, but it’s the best thing I’ve ever done. When I get those bear hugs, I love you’s, and raspberry kisses, it makes me want to do it all over again. Not that I will!

Thank u google for clip art.

woman-she is

Then there she is

ready to take a step with her beliefs,

wiped her tears with a fearful heart

like a phoenix she rose from her mottled scars.

She spirited away loneliness for she will grieve no more,

She twirled over her challenges for she will hide nor fold.

Her ebullient spirit ignited her passion,

heaved her sighs to a mad laugh,

peering over the horizon she tightened her locks.

There, she is ready for you

Oh world! Standing amidst

STRONGER than ever

Her unfettered spirit liberated

 when she became one with her mind, body and soul,

for she is proud to be born a woman.

 

Woman

 

As a lone traveller I stood on the beach

With the waves curling my feet

Sands giving away underneath

burying them deep.

The evening rays cast its warm light,

glistening my hidden tears from sight

 the inebriated wind swept away my locks,

revealing the scars of an epoch.

Whose fault was it?

The wind whispered, “your’s”

“for being born a woman”.

letting her go

                    Waves were lapping at our feet,

                     teasing my little one for a retreat.

                     She looks into my eyes,

                     Let me go, see the world that lies

                     beyond this horizon where the sun dips,

                     to feel and see what sinks,

                     But I held her tight with fear

                     And not let the world near.

                    Her curious small almond eyes

                    looked at me to let go

                    and I did it with a quivering smile.